My name is Christine and this is not my name. Everything that I have been so far was given to me. My name, my jobs, my identity, even my thoughts and feelings. And I let this happen. Christine is a Box. A good girl box.

It took me 10 years to disidentify from that box because I was so consumed by it and what I know now is, that I have this box but I am not it.

Inside these walls is a woman who can ride a dragon and sometimes speaks as if she`s it! This is one of these moments.

I am angry ! And here is what I want to say: ...

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With regard to a new way of working there is one topic which many employees wish to change. It is the topic of stress and burnout. It cannot be denied that stress at work is part of daily life in modern performance society and that the burnout rate increases undamped. The office for job strategy in Berlin (www.berufsstrategie.de) has brought it to the point in one of their articles: In modern working life the individual requirements increased considerably. However, oftentimes a factual overload is not picked out as a central theme for worries regarding the reputation or the working place. In addition, it is mainly the people who are very much willing to work who are overstressed and who tend to not admit this overload due to too much sense of responsibility.

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When you are longing for a fulfilling, adult relationship at eye level, but find yourself over and over again in ordinary relationship, this could be due to an important aspect: The enmeshment of energies and personal spaces. This might sound weird at first. However it is one of the essential aspects why couples keep being stuck on the ordinary level. Let us therefore take a look at what’s behind it.

With regard to the evolution of relationship, the stage that follows the adolescent flirting stage is usually the relationship stage, which can be described as fusion. In this stage, low drama (the victim- persecutor-rescuer dynamic) and disputes are common. It is an emotional rollercoaster that feels pretty much alive at first, but in the end sucks a lot of energy. In this stage a certain co-dependency exists between the partners. This co-dependency might cause you to think that the partner is “yours” or that you “need them”. However, this kind of relationship is not an adult relationship at eye level, in which each partner owns their power and can take a stand for themselves.

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Recently I saw a short speech of Matt Damon, the famous US actor. In his speech he analogously said "The government thinks that civil disobedience is the problem. But this is not our problem. Our problem is civil obedience. Our problem is the number of people all over the world who have obeyed the dictates of the leaders of their government...” Wise words, because this world could in fact be a different one if more people were more “civil disobedient”. This means nothing else than lowering your own numbness bar, feeling the pain about certain conditions and taking action instead of resigning. Resignation seems to be a topic affecting many people to a smaller or bigger extent. It can be the resignation about the current circumstances on Earth, ranging from wars, climate change, flows of refugees to destruction of nature and suppression, or it can be about the resignation in your own life, e. g. a boring, stressful job, an unfulfilling relationship or annoying neighbors.

It is helpful at this point to clarify what resignation actually means. Wikipedia defines resignation as follows: “(...) since the middle of the 19th century resignation describes the human attitude as: a mood of complying in an inevitable situation, e. g. in (felt) hopelessness.” When you resign, you give up. You give up the hope for change and think that you can’t change things anyway. Consequently you become a victim of circumstances.

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A 'superstition' is 'an easy-to-understand concept that has no basis in reality'. Believing a superstition blocks the perception of more useful possibilities. But superstitions are not called superstitions until they are recognized as superstitions. Before then they are regarded as the truth.

A superstition that participants in modern culture have not yet identified as a superstition is 'the nation-state'. This superstition became popular in the 1800s as a win-lose game ("If you get the resources we die, so we will do whatever it takes to get the resources."). This superstition includes the concept that a nation-state is connected to a piece of land on Earth. Since all the land on Earth has already been claimed by the current 206 nation-states, it is assumed that no new nation-states can emerge on Earth.

But the connection between a nation-state and a plot of land is not a law of nature. It is invented in the imaginations of human beings, pure fiction, a story marketed to you by - you guessed it! - the current set of nation-states!...

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I am on the playground with my two-year-old son and the three-year-old son of a neighbor. It is a crisp morning, and the sun is just about to rise over the large willows at the edge of the playground. The two boys have only known each other briefly and are wandering about, uncertain what to do with themselves.

I am tired from an interrupted night’s sleep and am feeling glad that the two children have each other to play with. I also feel some fear, the uncertainty of how this will go, the responsibility of taking care of another child, wanting to create a safe space for them to explore in.

In their roaming around they both come across a shovel lying in the sand, and one nanosecond later they are both clinging to one side of it yelling “I want it” “No, me! I want it!”. They are full on: faces red with wrath, their bodies completely engaged in their wanting, feet stemmed deep in the sand, fists clenched around the object of desire. They are YELLING at each other. Again and again, the same words and sheer screams of Anger.

I notice my fear rising, I am starting to sweat. There is a part of me, I would call my Child Egostate, that wants to run away from conflict and loud, strong feelings. The grown up part of me is afraid that they will hurt themselves and instantly takes hold of the shovel, softly keeping it in the middle between them, just making sure neither of them starts lashing out at the other’s face with it.

My inner Evolutionary is alert, celebrating the undisturbed space and time that is unfolding around us. There is a knowing that I need to DO NOTHING...

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I write this after attending a memorial service for a family friend’s daughter. I’ll call her Erica. Erica committed suicide after struggling with depression for several years. Much of the memorial was sweet, with friends telling stories about her rock climbing adventures and her deep passion for mental health, which manifested in organizing mental health conferences. But these touching remembrances were punctuated by three moments that jarred and disturbed me.

• The first came when a photo of Erica smiling appeared during a slideshow. Her mom jumped up and said, “Look, even at this point in time, and she was in a deep depression here, she’s still smiling. She was so strong.” She talked again and again about “how hard Erica tried.”

• The second was when the well-groomed pastor who was leading the proceedings opened the floor for impromptu memory sharing, with one caveat: “Please, this is a celebration of her life, so we want you to share memories you have of her that made you smile.”

• The last was when memory sharing concluded: “This is a party to celebrate her life, so let’s all leave with smiles on our faces.”

I was unsettled by these instructions of how to feel, how to share, and how to view Erica...

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At the beginning of this journey, I met a Man.

I capitalize the word Man for a reason. He had learned, through dying many many times, the Possibility and the value of Being Nothing in the Presence of a Woman.

This time, the woman just happened to be me. It was the first time that I experienced my Everythingness being well met. Not only were the archetypal parts of me seen, they were also held, and most of all, welcomed. Not being naïve, I didn’t let my guard down so easily. He had to work unfalteringly for more than two years before it occurred that he was received by the Source.

We would go to cafés and restaurants and he would sit there attentively with his book open, a pen in his hand, and through nonlinear possibility questions he would open doorway after doorway for my archetypal aspects to flow through — coincidentally in his general direction.

These were the best of times. Experiencing the electricity of being jacked-into an archetypal Source and downloading the Treasure to an unfillable receptacle is by far the most exhilarating adventure I had until then found...

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Imagine how much healthier and wealthier we become by shifting from an economics of self-cannibalism to an economics of self-regeneration. No more employers or employees, no slave-owners and slaves. No brands, franchises, absentee ownership, landlords, career paths, retirement benefits, tax havens, hierarchies, corporate personhood, or non-local authorities. These are dust on the Path of evolution to human consciousness.

Yes... and... how does it go?...

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Thinking about trying to create or join a village gameworld feels scary because you are trying to do a new thing (join a village, become a villager) using very old thoughtware (the teachings about reality as given to you by modern culture).

Before even thinking about what it would be like for you to live in a village or intentional community it might be wise first to upgrade your thoughtware, that is, to update what you are using to think with.

School taught you what to think about. That is curriculum content. Thoughtware is what you use to think with. Becoming a next culture villager includes intelligently moving your Point Of Origin from modern culture to next culture. At this point, nothing could be wiser than this...

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This Summer a group of brave Possibilitators decided to consciously organise their lives in such a way that they would find themselves walking nearly 8 meters (26 feet) of burning embers barefoot. This is an authentic adulthood initiation where we would use our Conscious Adult Fear and Conscious Adult Anger to be in an extraordinary space such that the commom laws of physics would not apply. Meaning our bare skins would not burn. The purpose of this initiation? To directly experience the power of spaces and spaceholding.

I had heard about this initiation before, and how mind-blowing it was for a few friends that, like me, had learned all their life that fire and hot embers make nasty burns on bare skin. When confronted with the reality that they could indeed walk safely on those glowing red coals, despite feeling the heat coming from that mass of carbon on the ground, their logic minds short-circuited and gave them a whole new perspective on what is possible...

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I make the effort to share this information because it gives me, at last, a plausible answer to a long-unanswered question: Why, no matter how much intelligent goodwill exists in the world, is there so much war, suffering and injustice? It doesn’t seem to matter what creative plan, ideology, religion, or philosophy great minds come up with, nothing seems to improve our lot. Since the dawn of civilization, this pattern repeats itself over and over again.

The answer is that civilization, as we know it, is largely the creation of psychopaths. All civilizations, our own included, have been built on slavery and mass murder. Psychopaths have played a disproportionate role in the development of civilization, because they are hard-wired to lie, kill, cheat, steal, torture, manipulate, and generally inflict great suffering on other humans without feeling any remorse, in order to establish their own sense of security through domination. The inventor of civilization — the first tribal chieftain who successfully brainwashed an army of controlled mass murderers — was almost certainly a genetic psychopath. Since that momentous discovery, psychopaths have enjoyed a significant advantage over non-psychopaths in the struggle for power in civilizational hierarchies — especially military hierarchies...

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Have you already found yourself trying to choose between different parts or scales of your life? Wanting to choose between promoting social, ecological or environmental activism; trying to get your team, organization or community together in order for you all to be more aligned in the organization direction and goals and better work together; working on your personal development so you are a better person, partner, father or colleague?

In general, and simplistically, our current society considers that we obtain knowledge from experts and knowledgeable ones, that the world is a mechanical system with causes and effects connected through linear processes, and that we human beings are born with some capabilities and that development and evolution is uncommon or difficult.

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Navigating the experienced synergies of Possibility Management and Regenerative Development practices.

In this article we will share with you some of our insights, learnings and ongoing experiments, and hope these will shine some light to your own path. This article describes how we are perceiving each practice considering our journey until now and their synergies, complementarities and where they are significantly different.

We want to bring clarity that what we present here is a current understanding we have of both practices. We have been practicing Possibility Management (PM) and Regenerative Development (RD) for less than 5 years, and know that each of them have more than 30 years of experience. Nevertheless, this reflection based on lived experience will be important for us to get our “X on our map” (feedback) as well as receive invitations to go deeper in each of the practices.

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It is cooking inside of many people these days. It is bubbling, boiling, pinching, it is just about to explode. What is this IT? The “IT” is feelings and emotions that are boiling up, which shows in
various forms. Some people literally explode by e. g. screaming at somebody or starting a fight over irrelevances. Others swallow their feelings silently and sooner or later have physical symptoms and a big number of people try to suppress feelings with shopping, consumerism, alcohol and distraction. This is not surprising, since in our society we have been manipulated in a way that it is not okay to have or show feelings. You have to be strong, reliable and professional and feelings just don’t fit into this picture. What would the neighbors and colleagues otherwise think! Feelings are negative, foolish, childish and destructive. However, many people are facing their limits by now, and trying to suppress what’s boiling inside of them sooner or later triggers backwards.

It is time to realize that feelings and emotions are not a design error of God, but an essential part of us. They are meant to be. They are archetypal forces that serve us.

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4feelings.mystrikingly.com, 4emotions.mystrikingly.com, and numbnessbar.mystrikingly.com)

It was this June. It was completely unplanned- that’s how the experiment began: I signed up at Tinder together with a friend. The idea was to just let myself be surprised by whatever the 'Tinder Adventure' has in store for me. “I want a nice summer story,” I said to myself. And then I fell in love. At 150% it went straight to the heart and I could have gone on like this forever.

And then the summer passed. At the beginning of autumn, my dream ship crashed. The summer story did not make it through the fall - as much as I wished it would.
And then? It started. The lovesickness process that I know only too well.
But something is different this time: it is my first lovesickness since I started my path to become an initiated adult.

And I’m determined to finally try something else than the same pattern of repressing, not letting go and suffering that I usually do. But how does that work?...

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If something is possible, it means you or someone else has already done it before. Otherwise, how would you know that it is possible?

And if something has already been done, why would you want to do the exact same thing again? Will that fulfil the deepest longings that are throbbing away in your heart and soul? Will that feed you the way you have been dreaming of for so long?

Is doing something that can already be done serving the community or your destiny? If this job has been done before then perhaps it is not your job to do now. Probably it was the job of the person who did it.

So what is your job? What is this thing that the Universe, Gaia, and humanity are waiting for you to do? What is this thing that life has actually brought you on Earth to do? The suggestion here is that your job might just be that impossible thing that has been staring you in the face for weeks.

It could be that the impossible thing is quitting your job, asking for a promotion, creating your own business, moving out of your apartment to live in a car and go traveling around Europe, buying a one way ticket to New Zealand without a plan, taking your kids out of school, moving to another country, buying land to build your own community…

But how can you possibly do something that is impossible to do? Richard Bach, in his marvelous little book Illusions, gives part of the answer: “You are never given a wish without also being given the power to make it true.”

What wonderful news! But how to get access to the power to make it true? An interesting and fun way to try this is to commit to this impossible thing before you know how you are going to do it...

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In modern culture, we were mutilated in more than one way- so we suck at survival.
This might confuse you, because of the distinction that: what modern culture is about is keeping is in survival.
But someone playing in the modern culture gameworld doesn’t consciously try to survive. He thinks what he is doing is 'living'.
When you try to survive in the disguise of living, everything is a problem, and except for the 'seeking' one might have for something else, like a true adulthood path, almost everything ends up to be a low drama or a trauma, aka survival in modern culture.
An example of the latter is me being on the 'Spiritual path', yet all I could do is compare other paths to mine, and intellectualize why they are wrong. I was still unconsciously surviving, trying to 'win at the game of figuring out life'...

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Let’s get to the bottom of this, shall we? What are those sensations coursing up and down your spine when you hear the words ‘Corona Virus’? That tightness around your heart? Shallow breaths, survival-instinct alertness, ready to leap away, or fight, or powerlessly panic?

Yes. It is fear. Deep fear. High intensity survival fear. Your fear.

What is that fear actually about? What are you truly afraid of? What do you imagine will happen to you if you get infected with Corona Virus?
You don’t know?

That is because your Numbness Bar is so high.

Perhaps this is worth investigating...

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Conscious Fear has subtle and fantastic treasures for you.

When you are with someone, use your conscious fear for saying what you want and for sharing things that you are actually afraid of because exactly this makes you vulnerable and being vulnerable is an opportunity for intimacy. Being vulnerable requires you to sit with your conscious fear and stay there while being in connection with another person. To make your fear conscious, share why you are afraid of being in a relationship with that person. By doing that, your fears become conscious fears and you don’t have to keep that somewhere in your mind, emotions, or energetical field...

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A phenomenon at the turn of the year is the fact that many people decide to change something or create something differently in their lives. New Year’s pledges and wishes are sent out into the universe in great numbers and at first most people really have the noble and sincere intention to realize these. It is therefore even more astonishing that especially the pledges are thrown overboard already after one, two, three weeks. There are many reasons and influencing factors for that. However, one essential factor is the missing knowledge about the power of declaration.

Ongoing we declare without really being aware of it. When we declare then we determine how things are for us. We say “It is so!” By declaring we create our life, because each declaration forms a story serving a specific purpose and affecting our lives. The purpose can either be responsible or irresponsible, give you power or withdraw from your, connect you with or separate you from people, make your life easier or more difficult.
In live things happen constantly. We make different experiences, meet various people, might work in companies, travel, etc. The crux is: no matter what happens, we cannot leave things neutrally.

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We have thoughtware for just about everything in our lives.

I want to talk about one particular piece of thoughtware right now, the thoughtware about ‘Taking Action’.

In modern culture, the thoughtware about ‘Taking Action’ is directly connected to the sensation of having to ‘Do’ something. We assume that to ‘Take Action’ we must do something. That is our way of approaching the problem called ‘Taking Action’.

The industrial thoughtware of modern culture hammers in us that we must use our time to ‘Do Something’, and that if we are ‘Doing Nothing’ then we are a burden for society, we are not contribution to the economy, and we are not worth being taken care of by the nation-state. In Standard Human Intelligence Thoughtware (S.H.I.T.), ‘Doing Nothing’ has been equated with ‘Bad’, and ‘Doing Something’ (or at least acting as if you are ‘Doing Something’) has been equated with ‘Good’. The more you ‘Do’, the more you are valued as a human being.

But what about our name being our birthright? Human 'being'.

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In the video there are two shadowy figures talking very fast about stories about what is going on in the world. Very relevant, very 'true'. Imagine that you are sitting next to two powerful psychopaths discussing the fate of the world and their strategy for how to win the game.

What I get from this video brings forward the distinction: Gameworld. We live in a world of Gameworlds. Humans use Gameworlds to collaborate with each other. Gameworlds have the rules of engagement, principles, and the official currency (what is valued in the Gameworld).

The Patriarchal Capitalist Modern Culture has the shadow principles of competition, greed, good/bad, right/wrong, deception, division, exclusion, etc. Its currency is money and material things. And the rules of engagement are based on hierarchy: I’m more, you’re less. I win, you loose. We’re born into this culture in which we must find a way to survive in it by sacrificing, exploiting or hiding our bright principles (love, transformation, dignity, respect, connection, friendship, etc).

You are a pawn of the Patriarchal Gameworld until you do the painful and transformational process of Extracting yourself from Patriarchy...

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I write this text as a part of my research about how I can exit the Patriarchy as a man myself. To write this text I have to become a different person than I was before. Through this process I take a step closer to exit the Patriarchy and hope to inspire a few of you to do the same.

What is the Patriarchy? And why exit it?

Patriarchy is generally understood as the leadership and superiority of men over women opposed to matriarchy where women lead and are superior to men.

Where I want to go is what is possible beyond both of them, that which is called Archiarchy in the Possibility Management context.

But to get there I have to start where I am.

Where can I find the Patriarchy? How can I investigate it?...

Only here I have the authority to dismantle and ruthlessly stare into what I have caused as a man and can feel the pain about it. Feeling that pain is necessary, to truly change my thoughtware, my actions and my standing in the world, to be someone where the perpetuation of Patriarchy ends...

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Money has been a mystery and struggle for most of my life. Last night (October 5th 2022), Serena held space for me to explore the next step in the blockages, contradictory choices that cut off resources from flowing through me, to me, for me, from me.

Here's the recording from our processing space, which I share here with the purpose of sharing the research with others who might find value in the process...

What is getting in the way of my abundance? What is taking space in my soil that is not letting other things grow? What is blocking me from my sense of self worth? How am I living in denial? What am I denying to myself? What am I denying to others?

It's become more visible that part of me is holding resentments and stories about the world and other people's way of getting money. Here's a few of them: "Things shouldn't be like this." "Why is the world so blind?" "I expect people to be curious about me or ask me if I need anything." "I don't know how to ask for what I need." "The work that I do is more important than the work that other people are doing." "Not everything that shines is gold." "I don't see a way out of this."...

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Six o clock. The alarm goes off. I pull my consciousness out of the soft dream I was just hanging in and the next thing I notice is Fear. It comes along in this dull gray whitish shade of colour. I dread the moment I have to wake up my son. It was later than I wanted it to be for him to go to bed last night. Now I feel Fear not only because it seems so cruel to rip a softly sleeping angel- like child out of his dreams before he would organically wake up. I also am afraid to face his Gremlin’s reaction. In the last few days we have been building up this pattern of Low Drama that starts right in the morning: I wake him. He ignores me. I leave him for 5 Minutes and go off to get other stuff handled, just to return with already a mixture of Rage and Fear: I am angry because nothing is moving (“This is so unfair, because I always have to get up so early if I want it or not!” snorts my Gremlin Drama Queen internally, in unison with my Child Ego State…). Underneath that, I am afraid, because I think that if he doesn’t start moving right now, my beautifully laid out plan for the morning- actually for the whole day- is in danger...

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You have given up, and hold the painful conclusion that ‘these kids are so spoiled they can’t appreciate the safety and love I provide’. You didn’t have any of this (especially the money and junk food) when you were their age, but ‘they have no respect for any of it’.

I stopped everything else in my life to wrestle with this terrible paradox.

Yes, there is disease and crime on the streets. Why must there be so much tension at home?

I used the Buddhist idea that if I encounter a paradox, the paradox is within me. What is blocked that could fall into flow if I moved certain things around in me like a Rubric’s Cube?

Ahh… Assumptions! Thoughtware! The ways we are taught to think! For example, there is research showing that children do not have the structural capacity to take responsibility for the level of responsibility that they take until they are eighteen years old.

If a parent or caretaker assumes that a young person should take full responsibility, then the home environment can have no children in it. The gap between what the parent structures and what the child needs forces the child into a desperate survival struggle against the parents. A child’s reactivity is the best they can to survive in the circumstances you have built for them. You are forcing them to fight you...

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Operating as a hidden driver, fear is not conscious anymore. Fear operates then like an emotion attached to a story, an assumption from the past, mainly created when we are young, about how bad, wrong, useless, unprofessional, unpredictable, and inappropriate fear is.
These assumptions have been passed on from our parents, parental figures, and modern Western society. We simply adopted it, because nobody ever told us better.
We are running out of chances.

It is time to change the game...

(Related: consciousfear.mystrikingly.com, and fearclub.mystrikingly.com)

What do you do when faced with life or death?

Do you know?

Do you stand there, frozen in fear? Do you collapse upon yourself, unable to bear your own powerlessness, a victim of circumstance? Do you push back, threaten, overpower?

You might experience any of these in varying degrees, but at the end of the hour, when all the leaves have fallen, you can make up any kind of story you want. You won’t know until you experience real survival, life/death survival, viscerally.

A few months ago, I set out on a 10-day white-water canoeing adventure in the Canadian wilderness...

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Thoughtware is what we think with.

We seldom think about what we think with.

We mostly think about what we think about. We think about our relationships, about what we will have for dinner, about how to balance our accounts, etc… These are all things we think about. But what do we use to think with, about those things? We use what we call thoughtware.

For example, think about a mountain. What thoughtware are you using to think about a mountain? An anthropologist discovered that a young boy in the state of Colorado thinks about a mountain as a pile of rock that he can mine for his own profit. A young boy in Peru relates to the mountain as a god guiding him during his journey through Life on Earth. The American boy thinks he can own part of Planet Earth, whereas the boy in Peru regards Earth as a deity which cannot be owned. Neither thoughtware is good nor bad, better nor worse. However, thoughtware has consequences in reality.

(Related: gameworldtraditions.mystrikingly.com, beliefs.mystrikingly.com, thoughtware.mystrikingly.com, memeticengineering.mystrikingly.com, and 50thoughtwareupgrades.mystrikingly.com)

In the Map for Rapid Learning it is distinguished: Feedback is Gold !

Today I look at giving feedback from the other side of the communication, from the side of the communicator — me, the one that provides feedback.

The questions I ask myself are:

• Where does the feedback come from in me, or what is the source urging me to give this feedback?
• What is the purpose of me giving feedback?
• What do I want to create with the feedback I’m giving?
• What can I see in myself that the feedback relates to?

My name is Isabel Amarilis Esterl. I am an Experimenter. Write me a message if you are ready to receive an experiment.

Before I declared that I am an Experimenter and had the opportunity to shift, I was a Montessori primary school teacher in Germany. At the very beginning of my career as a teacher I was nonlinear and creative. I was inspired by Maria Montessori’s teaching: Observe and find the next step. The half of the class wanted to do theater for 3 months in another room with me. I was holding space for magical creation so that every child had a voice. The other part of the class was with the second pedagogics in the classroom exploring the material.

If there was a conflict, I passed space holding for theater to a child and met the conflict, emotions and problems in the floor. I had a feelings-tree were the Children point at images that were connected to feelings (for example a picture of an angry looking kid). We went in nature as often as possible.

A part of the parents, teachers and the other pedagogics in my class complained about my style. The sentences were: “The kids don’t learn anything.” “You are ruining their lives.” “I want to take my child out of this class.”

Then I saw how fucked up all the families were. Not giving presence to the child, narcissists forcing children to study after school to be proud, overprotecting the child, etc.. Two children tried to kill themselves during the Covid-Lockdown.

I got depressed...

(Related: unmixemotions.mystrikingly.com, quitschool.mystrikingly.com, healfromschool.mystrikingly.com, 4feelings.mystrikingly.com, becomeanexperimenter.mystrikingly.com, and shiftidentity.mystrikingly.com)

You've probably heard the phrase (from the film Field Of Dreams): "Build it and they will come."

What you might not have heard is: "If you don't build it, nobody even has a chance to come!"

By building a 'Gaian Gameworld' you take a stand for what you have taken a stand for by being born.

Your gameworld is a platform where other people can co-create with you the more beautiful world your hearts know is possible!

(Related: gaiangameworlds.org, ecovillage.org, gaiavillage.mystrikingly.com, and edgeworker.org)

For much of my life my money experiments included trading, barter, gift exchange, gifts with no exchange, accepting scholarships, bursaries, handouts, accolades, patronage, treasure hunting and finding finding, upcycling, cathartic grief, and impressive minimalism.

Secretly, there was responsible victimhood, resentment, revenge, superiority, comparison, and a lot of pretending.

My more conscious and recent experiments have stemmed from my studying and using Possibility Management to empower:

Emotional Healing Processes, Initiation processes, Radical Honesty, teaming up, conscious anger work, (examples below), and conscious fear work, grief work and the discovery of vast new things about joy, celebration and going first.

It began with conscious anger...

(Related: moneyclub.mystrikingly.com, becomemoney.mystrikingly.com, archiarchaleconomics.mystrikingly.com, and rageclub.mystrikingly.com)

The rug is pulled out. I stand on nothing. How can I choose, how can I live? My heart sinks, contracts. My throat tries to close. Tears pour out of my eyes. It’s like falling and falling and falling without ever touching ground. I am terrified because I don’t know.

I don’t know.

I don’t know how to live anymore. I don’t know how to get out of bed other then by obeying to “I have to get out of bed.” I stare at the ceiling and think: “it’s the morning, I should drink water.” That is one of my rules. Is it? I drink water when I’m thirsty. That is also a rule. Am I thirsty?

The world is strange. I can choose anything. I cry as I look at the trees, leaves blowing in the wind, sun shining through. The hem of my shirt is wet with tears against the skin of my chest. Trees, they exist without reason and yet they are so valuable, so amazing. They simply exist.

(Related: yourteams.mystrikingly.com, consciousfear.mystrikingly.com, consciousjoy.mystrikingly.com, and gounreasonable.mystrikingly.com)

A commentary by Carolyn Baker on Clinton Callahan’s book: Directing The Power of Conscious Feelings.

In May 2008 I was approached by psychotherapist, Clinton Callahan, offering me an article entitled “Beware of The Psychopath, My Son” which asserts that people in places of power in the systems of empire are often devoid of conscience and therefore have participated in setting industrial civilization on a self-destructive course that cannot be altered by rational dialog or appeals to altruism within those individuals.

Few who have addressed infantalization have offered a specific path for the journey from it to adulthood. While Callahan has no formula for this, he asserts that the principal rite of passage from emotional immaturity to maturity is the capacity to consciously, constructively work with one’s feelings, directing the power of feelings in service of the entire earth community. In Directing The Power of Conscious Feelings, he validates what most of us have felt all of our lives regarding our feelings in relation to modern culture, namely that none of them are acceptable...

(Related: hohmpress.com/collections/clinton-callahan, and http://initiations.org)

Five bodies, four feelings, three worlds, two dramas, and one simple truth, from Possibility Management.

Theories about the cause and healing of disease abound. Without attacking or defending any particular theory you can add dimensions to your healing effectiveness by adding dimensions to your Clarity.

Clarity amplifies a Healer’s ability to provide Clients with additional healing options in their everyday behavior. Having more options means having greater Possibility. Possibility is one of the most powerful healing agents in the world. An introduction to 3 Phase Healing...

(Related: swordofclarity.mystrikingly.com, possibility.mystrikingly.com, createpossibility.mystrikingly.com, and 3phasehealing.mystrikingly.com)

With the growth of the 'New Age' movement and Spiritual concepts reaching more and more people, an 'enlightened' attitude towards life begins to become desired. A face of the good human who acts 'for the greater good' and who does not carry anything with him that is not conscience.

Yes, we are all consciousness, but this rush to attain that 'conscious human being' position is so great, people try to skip steps to get there. They want to be 'good people' so much that they blind themselves to their own shadows and inconsistencies. They try to act like good humans, instead of really bringing awareness to the unconsciousness they carry.

Then, a theater game begins: whoever pretends to be more conscious wins. Whoever has more knowledge, has read more books and has more arguments is placed on a pedestal. And as much as that person loves the pedestal he’s on, he talks as if there’s no pedestal (because of course a person as conscientious as he/she could not feed hierarchy!).

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Today I would like to ask you a straight forward question: How do you nourish your relationship to your partner or the relationship to your close friends or family? Have you ever thought about this consciously? Asking this question might be somewhat dangerous, but at the same time it is worth investigating into it, because if you are not clear about how you can consciously nourish your relationship, it might well happen that your relationships get stuck on the ordinary level with low dramas instead of reaching extraordinary dimensions.

The way of nourishing relationship is manifold, but it is useful to take 3 essential distinctions into consideration:

1. Your relationship is not supposed to provide you with soul food, but with heart food.

2. Relationships do not die from lack of love, but from lack of intimacy.

3. Relationship is an ongoing conscious act of nonlinear creation.

What do these 3 distinctions contain in detail?

(Related: 5offers.mystrikingly.com, negotiateintimacy.mystrikingly.com, ordinaryextraordinary.mystrikingly.com, and archetypallove.mystrikingly.com)

A few years ago I was becoming dissatisfied with sitting in my counselling room, day after day, hour after hour, listening and responding to the problem lives of people. I had been for 25 years after all and I was pretty damn good at it, most of the time. A psychodramatist, a DBT practitioner, even a sex therapist for a time, but I was running out of inspiration and motivation. I had the feeling there was something more but I didn’t know what that could be.
Home was a bit of a grind as well. Intimacy with my partner of 30 + years had reached an all time low and I was dissatisfied with my relationship.
Covid struck and I found myself coming home from work, pouring a glass of wine and watching the 6 oclock news.
Then came a crash. Various factors came together to provide a perfect storm for a break-through which looked and felt like a breakdown at the time.
I pared my practice back to a bare minimum and resumed therapy with a kind and loving psychologist who had trained in EMDR. It was surprising to find that despite all my years of experiential training and supervision, there were major gaps in healing from neglect and sexual abuse all the way back to when I was very young...

(Related: sexualabuse.mystrikingly.com, consciousfeelings.mystrikingly.com, gremlintransformation.mystrikingly.com, gremlin.mystrikingly.com)

During February of 2020, I was attending a conference and a very old friend was there and we talked briefly. Her clarity of speech, quality of assertive connection and some other signs led me to ask her what was she doing or practicing. She told me she was a Possibilitator and coach of Possibility Management (PM). I did few sessions and both saw in myself a part that wanted more, because I was becoming more alive, and another part that was reluctant of continuing, once I was entering unknown territory of myself (feelings & emotions). Nevertheless, those few session supported me starting to change all aspects of my life. A few months after, by the beginning of 2021, a friend of mine, also a practitioner of PM, intended to stay at my place for a week. Nevertheless, I got COVID during that week and we ended up staying together for almost a month. He took me deeper into PM. Not theoretically but in real life process I was going through, including relationship, fatherhood, professional career and other issues that I was holding within myself. With simple distinctions...

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possibilitatortraining.mystrikingly.com, process.mystrikingly.com, and possibilitycoaching.mystrikingly.com)

I think and talk and write and coach an awful lot about this thing called ‘purpose.’ My efforts are mostly geared toward clarifying and supporting purpose — my own, my clients’, my friends’.

One thing I’ve noticed is that purpose is often incredibly inconvenient.

In my case, it asks of me things that I would never ask of myself. It requires that I grow in ways that are not always pleasant. It demands that I do things that scare me.

So, I thought it would be useful to have a list of instructions for how to effectively evade purpose. These are some items on my personal list.

1. Assume that you do not have a purpose: No destiny, no deeper reason for living, no mission to fulfill, a purpose. This assumption is the first and by far the most important instruction...

Do you know this quote from Norman Cousins ​​?

„Death is not the greatest loss in life.
The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live.”

I would even say that the greatest loss in life are the things, we let die inside us while we live. Is not that a paradox? Our anxiety and fear of dying is so big, that we do not even notice, that we already produce what we fear so much in our lives. We sacrifice our lives on the altar of anxiety and thus become the living dead – zombies – trying not to take any risk. Otherwise, we could really die. But where is the difference between living dead and really dead? Have you asked yourself this question before?

And so we create ourselves a life of mediocrity and with a lot of loopholes. And the system – our current culture – is drawing as much benefit and profit as possible from this fact. A large part of our economy and our social systems are built on this unconscious anxiety. The insurance industry, the bank system, the real estate industry, but also our labor market and the system of dependent work between employer and employee just work on this struggle for survival – to name just a few examples. Living dead people can be just much easier be controlled and manipulated – either by advertising or by politics.

(Related: survivalstrategy.mystrikingly.com, numbnessbar.mystrikingly.com , and changeyourmind.mystrikingly.com)

On the fifth day of a temporary magic school, it became obvious that the soil in the wizards and sourceresses had been prepared enough for their Dragons to sprout and flame-up the world with a certain kind of poetry. I was one of the Dragon Speakers.

Here what I as my Dragon said:

“I take a stand for each and every one of you, my colleague-trainers, my friends in arms, my villagers. I take a bigger stand for you than you are taking for yourself. I commit to you that you will become what you want to become. I commit that I will give you every distinction you don’t yet have, every tool you forgot to use, every evolutionary process you lack, every exercise or kick-in-the-butt you need to get there. Even if you hate me for it. Even if that path takes you away from me. You have your path, it is unique, it is different from mine. That is not important. I don’t need to understand your path. It is not required that your path fits into my understanding or worldview for me to commit to it. I take that stand to commit to your commitment that the Dragon in you come out and roars!

I take the stand that I am the threadholder for the different villages from which the people of the Trainer Path come. I am a thread that weaves them together. Other people are bringing me the threads that I will weave together.
And most importantly, I take a stand for these stands that I have taken.”

There you have it. I commit to your commitment. I commit to your Dragon. And I don’t commit to your bullshit...

(Related: commitment.mystrikingly.com, and radicalrelating.mystrikingly.com)

How many times have you found yourself doing something that no longer made sense? How many times have you stayed or gone to a place just because you 'said' you would be there? How many times have you spent hours, days, weeks or maybe years doing something just because you started doing it? How many times have you continued with a story about yourself or the world that no longer made sense? How many times have you stayed doing work that turns you into a zombie? How many times have you turned your life from water to concrete?

If changing your mind is not an option, then, in fact, you are in a prison. No matter the context, the situation, the person, whatever, you always have within your range of possibilities, the option to give up, to change your mind, to reconsider.

(Related: changeyourmind.mystrikingly.com, thoughtware.mystrikingly.com, beliefs.mystrikingly.com, memeticconstruct.mystrikingly.com, 8prisons.mystrikingly.com, and path.mystrikingly.com)

‘No’ has been taken out of our vocabulary, same as ‘Stop’. When ‘No’ is taken out of the realm of your possibilities, so is your true authentic committed adult empowered ‘Yes’.
If you cannot say ‘No’ how can you ever trust your ‘Yes’?
Not being able to say ‘No’ is not just leaving out a word in your vocabulary. It is giving up on having enough respect and dignity for what you want and what you do not want in the moment. Not 1 hour later, 1 day later or a year later. Now. And Now. And Now. In each moment.
Re-discovering this instantaneous experiential clarity of ‘No!’, ‘Yes!’, ‘This!’, ‘That!’, ‘Here!’, ‘There’, ‘Now!’ is an exhilarating experience. I am saying this from experience, my personal experience, and the experience of hundreds of people who I have worked with in Rage Club, Fear Club, Expand The Box training, and Possibility Labs:
‘No’ do not touch me.
‘No’ I am not available for being manipulated by your fear.
‘No’ I do not interact with children pretending to be adult.
‘No’ I will not argue with you.
‘No’ I am not dedicating my time, my energy, my attention to this.
‘No’. Simply ‘No’. 'Stop that now!' For no reason. No justifications...

(Related: saystop.mystrikingly.com, realvoice.mystrikingly.com, becomecentered.mystrikingly.com, justifications.mystrikingly.com, reasons.mystrikingly.com, and deciding.mystrikingly.com)

If your survival strategy - your 'Box' - has one particular expertise, it is to hold you in denial about what is really going on for you. The Box does not even allow you to detect what you are in denial about.

Conflicts and potentials just sit in you, denied for years, perhaps a whole lifetime. Have you seen others blinded by their Box’s denial mechanisms?

On the one hand, denial hides considerations that might threaten your Box’s original defense strategy, a strategy that has already proven itself to be effective, as evidenced by the fact that you have survived.

On the other hand, perhaps your priorities have changed since you installed the denial mechanism. Perhaps security is not so high on your list anymore.

After some time security’s deception is revealed. You will one day die and no amount of insurance or timidity will prevent it. Perhaps it becomes a more interesting proposition to abandon mere survival in favor of finding what it might be to truly live...

(Related: negotiateintimacy.mystrikingly.com, and 3phasehealing.mystrikingly.com)

Fear has many wonderful purposes to serve in your life, and one of them is to avoid naively giving trust to people and processes that are not trustworthy.
If you feel fear going into an unfamiliar process, that’s a good sign. The same qualities that make a transformational space powerfully good also make it powerfully hazardous.
Numbing or denying your fear would handicap your intuition, and leave you susceptible to manipulation.
Your fear is not a reason to back away from transformational spaces.
It is a reason to get clarity so that you can navigate towards the great possibilities they provide, and away from the rocks.
Some of you might have histories like mine, and might feel very strong fear indeed. So I want to take the time to answer this question as thoughtfully and as honestly as I can.
I’m going to give you two different kinds of answer. The first is a general observation about cults; the second is about possibility management specifically.

(Related: possibilitymanagement.org, consciousfear.mystrikingly.com, and fearclub.mystrikingly.com)

The Baltic Sea. Magical place. Magical. I get up in the morning because a voice inside me says, “Get up. You are at the Baltic Sea, after all. Now you have breakfast and then you go to the beach.” I obey that voice because it’s right. I am at the Baltic Sea, after all. I have breakfast, get dressed and go to the Baltic Sea. I look at the clock. I have to walk for at least three hours so that the voice is satisfied and I don’t have a guilty conscience. When I talk to friends on the phone, I say things like, “It’s wonderful up here, the sea, the nature. I’m at the Baltic Sea for a few hours every day.” No one questions that. It’s beautiful, of course, and it’s fun to walk along the sea. Any person would enjoy it. I don’t. I complete a program. The program is called “Vacation at the Baltic Sea”. It involves walking along the beach, a few hours a day, consciously listening to the cries of the birds, feeling the wind, and saying things like, “It’s wonderful at the Baltic Sea. It’s a pity that my vacation will soon be over.” However, I don’t feel the fun and joy. At any time. Even though I do everything right. I read good books, eat fish, sleep a lot and walk around on the beach. I complete the whole program. Daily. Every minute. Every second...

(Related: 8prisons.mystrikingly.com, realvoice.mystrikingly.com, voiceblaster.mystrikingly.com, becomereality.mystrikingly.com, becomecentered.mystrikingly.com, and decontaminations.mystrikingly.com)

By 2015 I had barreled through five years of Law School in Paris and New York, and worked three months in an American Law Firm in Paris. Then… I left my budding Law career. I left the path that most of my friends were going to follow for the remainder of their professional lives.

At first I thought that entrepreneurship would be a home for me to bring about the changes I wanted to see in the world, but two challenges faced me. The first was education: All that I had been given from kindergarten through graduate school neither brought me closer to who I wanted to be, nor gave me the skills I needed for what I wanted to create. The second was the crippling nature of modern entrepreneurship: It failed to call forth the level of inventivity I needed to roll through challenge after challenge and create something big that doesn’t already exist.

Until a few weeks ago, I thought that E.C.C.O. (Earth Coincidence Control Office) had moved me to another world, taking me far away from both of these challenges, somehow for my own good. I write this article because now, five years later, I realize that I have arrived at exactly the place I was searching for in 2015. I am a Next Culture Entrepreneur...

(Related: growness.org, gaias.mystrikingly.com, archiarchy.org, and becomemoney.mystrikingly.com)

In this article I will invite you to go deeper into yourself and make you aware of your strategy to manipulate people, groups, projects and organisations for your unconscious purposes. You do that because you were and are an unique and sensitive being. However your parents, larger family, their friends, the schools system and all the systems that held you when you were young were doing their best but unaware of unconscious attacks to your being. For this reason you developed unconsciously survival strategies in order to reach adulthood. And congratulations!!! You survived!!! However, since you were 18 years old, you were wired to let go of the survival strategy and be initiated into the adult, able to identify your essence (role on Earth) as well as of being radical responsible for everything that you cocreate or “happens” in your life.

(Related: shadowprinciples.mystrikingly.com/#hidden-purposes, whitewidow.mystrikingly.com, radicalresponsibility.mystrikingly.com, and adulthood.mystrikingly.com)

The instructor drew diagram after diagram of the places it was seriously unsafe to go. Don’t go behind the hill, don’t go in front of the cliff, don’t go too close to the cloud, don’t pull the wrong cord, don’t pull the right cord too hard or too soft — or you’re in ‘deep shit’.

I lost track of the number of crucifixes he drew on the whiteboard to represent the places that were potentially fatal to go, and the number of times I heard the sentence “if you do this, you’re fucked’.

When the practical training started, it finally dawned on me that I had signed up to shackle myself to a great big sail that was way stronger than me and that obeyed only the wind and pilots who know what they are doing.

I did not know what I was doing.

(Related: flyingschool.mystrikingly.com, and yourattention.mystrikingly.com)

“I met with a man. We were together in intimate spaces that were intense and wonderful without sexuality. This man is married. What possibilities are there for exploring intimacy without destroying much?” wrote a friend to me recently.

First things first.

I thanked her for asking this boldly intimate question. I took her questions to heart. She is far from the only person to be asking such questions.

This woman’s authentic necessity launched a series of considerations in me about what it is we are really talking about.

My first line of thinking was, “What does she mean by ‘without destroying much’? What is at risk of being destroyed here? And what does she feel about it?”

(Related: http://distinction.mystrikingly.com, http://memeticconstruct.mystrikingly.com, and http://consciousfeelings.mystrikingly.com)

Every now and then a phrase comes along that strikes sleeping brain cells you didn’t know you had. Startled, the neurons wake up and perceive the electrifying impact with uncanny alertness. How soon your brain cells go back to sleep again depends on how ready you are to jump fully-committed into that new-found alertness and ride it like a bucking bronco.

If you ignore the bronco it soon gallops off into the sunset without you, perhaps never to return. But if you do grab the opportunity this new meme may take you along an awareness-path into entirely new territory, unexplored, and probably dangerous to your heretofore unquestioned assumptions.

It is these unquestioned assumptions that rule your life. Questioning them almost always leads to personal and cultural evolution. A particular phrase shocks you exactly because it directly challenges your sacred assumptions.

The particular phrase we are speaking of is men’s culture in Archiarchy...

(Related: menscircle.mystrikingly.com, rageclub.org, archiarchy.mystrikingly.com, and intimacyjourneyers.mystrikingly.com)

When you live your calling, work and life are no longer separated.

Imagine yourself going through an unlit street in a city at night. Suddenly an armed man peels from a dark corner, blocking your way. He threatens you: “Money or your life!” What would you choose? Would you give up your life to keep your money? I dare say that you would choose life, because everything else would make absolutely no sense.

The question is, however: Why then are you doing exactly the opposite concerning work – giving your life away to get the money?

I am aware that this is an assumption that might not apply to you. Yet it is probably true for the majority of the population in western society. An answer to the question might be that we usually do not realize that we give our lives away for money or safety. Simply because it is part of the context, we live in. It is normal. We have internalized this either-or-story so much, that we believe it to be true.

In this story, work and life are separated. Probably you know the saying “Do you work to live or do you live to work?” The second option is clearly considered as negative in our modern culture. And we do not even notice that if we seek the first option, we automatically make three basic assumptions limiting our lives enormously...

(Related: becomemoney.mystrikingly.com, archetypallineage.mystrikingly.com, and boxtechnology.mystrikingly.com)

Forty four hours before my mother passes away, I arrive at the hospital. I find her strong, radiant, serene and ready. I am surprised to notice that my Gremlin feels deceived. He captures, in a fraction of a second, that he can neither play the hero, nor be the messenger of wisdom and calm. His imagined scenarios won’t be possible. He is angry about that. I notice my Gremlin’s anger several times that day as unease, restlessness and lack of focus in my mental and physical body. Each time, I raise my conscious anger to keep the leash very short, saying firmly, “Sit!”

During the night watch with two of my siblings, my Gremlin can’t stand the silence and tries to make conversation. This surprises me because I carry a self-image of being comfortable with silence. Again, I keep saying, “Sit!” several times. He continues by judging the situation as useless and a waste of time because of my mother’s agony. I raise my anger to reframe him strictly.

By the time my other siblings replace us in the morning, my Gremlin has already created a story that my mother’s state will continue. So he is really surprised when my brother calls three hours later to tell us that my mother has crossed the threshold. My Gremlin is disappointed because he hoped to be decorated as the preferred and closest to my mother and this meant for him that she would die in my presence...

(Related: gremlin.mystrikingly.com, noticing.mystrikingly.com, http://selfobservation.mystrikingly.com, http://gremlintransformation.mystrikingly.com, and http://path.mystrikingly.com)

In the last New Work article „Culture Eats Structure For Breakfast“ the idea was introduced that a new company culture arises from a new context. A misunderstanding that can apparently easily pop up is that a new context is about new rules and regulations the employees have to stick to so that New Work approach can be well established. However, the opposite is the case. By implementing rules and regulations a New Work context in a company will die rather soon. To repeat one essential statement of the last article: The context determines what is possible.
This means that – in order to create new results - it is essential to shift into a new context, which is no longer based on the usual behavior, the usual perspectives and the known conditions. The usual behavior includes rigid rules.

(Related: setcontext.mystrikingly.com, newresults.mystrikingly.com, and

rulesofchaos.mystrikingly.com)

This is a story about not being good enough.

Basically, for my whole life, I was convinced that I am not good enough. I told myself the story that I am the problem, that I am the one that needs to change. After fights, I was always searching for what is wrong with me. I was lost because whatever I did, others would attack me for it. Whenever they approved of my doing, I would just forget it because it didn’t fit my worldview. In my relationships, I learned to be the one that apologizes first, since I just knew that it is me that fucked it up. It was me that did wrong so I needed to make it right again. At most things I wanted to learn, I found proof of not being good enough, of not learning fast enough.

(Related: survivalstrategy.mystrikingly.com, shiftidentity.mystrikingly.com, storyworld.mystrikingly.com, patriarchy.mystrikingly.com, and authority.mystrikingly.com)

I used to be a professional swimmer and became a French champion.

I swam for almost 10 years until I was 17 years old. During the last 5 years, I swam twice a day, 6 days a week, three times a day during the school holidays, and swam in competitions on the weekends. In total I swam an estimated 20,000 kilometers.

That is what it takes to be a professional swimmer.

You want to be a professional lover?
You want to be a professional parent?
You want to be a professional relationship creator?
You want to be a professional gameworld builder?
You want to be a professional trainer?
You want to be a professional guardian?

Are you training 4 to 6 hours a day, every day to become one?

We must do away with the absolutely specious notion that we were born professional in being a human being. We are born with temporary amnesia of how to be one: how to create authentic human relationships, how to be authentically ourselves and be connected with Earth.

(Related: becomeauthentic.mystrikingly.com, and alifeofpractice.mystrikingly.com)

I may have unwittingly become entangled in a cult.

This is an interesting place to be, because, true or not, I kind of like it.

I like the idea that I am being on an edge, allowing myself to fall into the kind of things I have been warned to never go near. It’s like the flush of first romance, the thrill of the fall. Maybe this does not mean I pack my bags and get the hell out. The adventurous soul in me, says stay awhile. Experience it, see what I can learn.

It began when the hairs on the back of my neck stood up, hearing the language used in a meeting where I was a participant. Words such as 'Gremlin', 'Box', 'Low/High drama', being in the 'swamp'. I thought “Whoa hang on, what the fuck?” I discovered there were a lot of other groups I could participate in, courses, trainings I could join and I did join. The free fall had only just begun...

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As part of a training experience I am participating in, we have been practicing sourcing our speaking from the unknown.

Here I am practicing writing from the unknown. I start this sentence not knowing how it will unfold from this moment. My intent is to relax the grip of my mind and its tendency to plan each word in advance. This is not happening right now I am simply writing each word as it arises in front of me.

This is so hard at first given how deep the rut of mentally planning every move is in my inner landscape. Where I am so passionate about shifting this pattern because I am all about processes of creation that live and life does not plan in advance – what happens is a perfect expression and resolution of all the forces at play right now, right here, no imposition or hijacking by mental images is required...

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About 1 year ago I started over.

After having a major collapse in my relational spaces with my partners and my people I was relating with. Hitting rock bottom with projects, dreams, aspirations, being in the muck, manifesting big messes, unfulfilling promises, breaking of my word, dropping the ball on my creations, heavy addiction to cannabis and tobacco, etc.

“Nothing changes until it hurts”. The pain of numbing myself, to what was happening, to my feelings, to my life’s experience, became visible and tangible. I might still be hating the world, blaming the world for being so horrible and unfair, I might still be blaming my partner for not being what I expected her to be, I might still be blaming the government, or the grid, or the Illuminati for their agenda of domination, I might still be blaming myself for not being strong enough, smart enough, fast enough, not enough. I might still be doing these things if it wasn’t for the distinctions I gained in StartOver.xyz, like Radical Responsibility, the mechanics of Low Drama, the unconscious purpose of my victim story, and the distinction of Gameworlds.

(Related: 4feelings.mystrikingly.com, 4emotions.mystrikingly.com, consciousfeelings.mystrikingly.com, storyworld.mystrikingly.com, and gremlin.mystrikingly.com)

For two months I have been living on a small island in the North Sea. It has not been so easy to find an apartment here, but I was very lucky: the house in which I live is surrounded by very large pastures and open spaces where cows and horses graze. In all directions it is several hundred meters to the next house and I have wonderful wide views from all windows. I can watch rabbits, pheasants, ducks, herons, very large pigeons, birds whose names I don’t know and a muskrat. There are no lanterns around, so it is very dark at night and very quiet. Very quiet... quiet enough to hear what I am worrying about...

(Related: becomepresent.mystrikingly.com, and noticing.mystrikingly.com)

Home pain drains your life force to the degree that you are left with little to no vitality for leaving home.

A certain amount of activation energy is required to recognize that something completely different from home is possible right now. A candle wick will not start on fire until it is close enough to a burning match. The unlit candle stands for eternity alone in the dark. Until that surprising moment, you might have not even considered that you could have had a choice to leave home.

It can be that even as you are faced with choosing between the painful experience of home and the painful awareness that something else is possible, home wins. It wins because it is known. Whereas you don’t know how the transformational pain goes. You fearfully imagine that it will be bigger.

Therefore you will not change until the pain of not fulfilling your desire for something different becomes greater than the ordinary pain of home.

(Related: consciousfeelings.mystrikingly.com, doorway.mystrikingly.com, and storyworld.mystrikingly.com)

While I celebrate the many profound and magical experiences inherent to watching human life emerge, I take a stand for accuracy about how parenting goes in Modern Culture. I take a futher stand for how it can go — in Next Culture.

I am aware that most of my readers are not mainstream. Still, even on the edges of Modern Culture, deeply set patriarchal and capitalist ways of doing things are happening, and children (and other-than-human children — but that is another article) are bearing the brunt.

I came to recognize this the hard way.

I was not an Authentic Adult when I became a mother - (I would have argued this)- at 21. Nor was I when I had my 2nd child at 25, and not when I had my two youngest in my early and late 30’s.

I finally — devastatingly started breaking out of pretending that it was all okay, that I was handling it — in my early 40’s. My kids were 4–20 years old. I could no longer keep from being real about the pain of watching them become at least as numb and desperate as I could finally start to admit I was. I could no longer pretend that I didn’t feel massive pain about how things were going on Earth, because of Modern Culture’s ways.

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I ask, “Are any of these old decisions still influencing your life today?” The answer is obvious to everyone, but in this work it is necessary that he puts the puzzle pieces together himself. “Yes,” he says. “I avoid to get married… I refuse to have children… My business is not working…”

“Would you like to make any new decisions?”

This is the pivotal moment. He is the only one who can make this choice. It is completely fine if he answers, “No.” The magic is that until this moment he did not have the option of making any new decisions because he did not remember making the old decisions. Even after fading from memory, decisions remain in our energetic body and actively define what is and what is-not possible for us during our whole life...

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Did you ever deal with children arguing over a toy? What children do pretty quickly when they don’t get what they want, is turn to the next available authority in the room: their mum, their dad, the kindergarten teacher. Then arguments follow arguments on why they had the toy first, on why the other shouldn’t have it, on how they deserve to have it. It’s amazing how early they pick up on the necessity to come up with a clever argument. They get really creative and throw in a tantrum, tears, and they might even start hitting each other.
It is not an empowering situation. None of these children really learns to take responsibility. They learn to turn to an authority for final judgment.
These children eventually age, and even when they’re officially considered “adults”, the pattern continues. They keep battling over that which is precious to them. That is what ends up in court. The judge becomes the authority to determine who’s right, and every country has an elaborate system in place to lay down the rules of this game.
Do you see the parallel? In the current societal systems worldwide, children in grown up bodies keep fighting over their toys, and the majority of them didn’t learn how to create a more sustainable, empowering way of dealing with each other. Early on, people learn to give away their authority, and they continue to do so until their last breath...

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One thing that we human beings have in common is our anger. Whether we are disconnected from it or have 'too much' of it, our incapacity to consciously and constructively handle this life force seems to be a collective issue.

Taking your own anger seriously is not only an act of self-respect, it is also political. Accepting your anger as part of you, and learning to give it its rightful place, is a big part of becoming radically self-responsible. To give space to what consciously arises in you allows you to potentialize its information and energy so that you can redirect it constructively into creativity, inspiration and transformation.

(Related: consciousanger.mystrikingly.com, and rageclub.org)

The thoughtmaps you have adopted determine how reality works for you.

A thoughtmap is what you use to think with. I am asking you now to think about what you are thinking with.

School gave us tons of facts and formulas to think about. That is the content of your thinking.

What I am talking about is the context of your thinking.

This would be like considering changing the rules of the game rather than blindly playing the only game you were taught.

Well-being in a rapidly changing world involves the capacity to evolve the context of your thinking. How does one do this?

(Related: thoughtware.mystrikingly.com, and 50thoughtwareupgrades.mystrikingly.com)

I was angry a lot as a kid. Very angry. At that time, I expressed my outrage with great strength, force and perseverance. The memory of it is still lives vividly inside of me. As well as the conclusion I made from these experiences: Anger separates. Being angry takes the people I love away from me.

Speechless from suppressing my Anger

When I was in my early twenties, I found myself in the relationship with the later father of my son in a speechlessness that surprised me. I had no words for what was “going on” with me. There was just inner perplexity and the feeling of being numb or empty. I couldn’t say what I want. I had no experience that what I want in my innermost being, my strength, my wildest aliveness, could be in contact with another person. Without inevitably creating separation.

Sacrificing Authenticity

I’m holding a photo of a six-year-old girl who used to be me. She looks mischievous — and I can see a subtle effort around her mouth. Every time I saw this picture hanging on the wall in my parents or my grandmothers house, I felt a diffuse unease deep in my belly. Now, 40 years later, I can feel the fear, anger and sadness buried under the numbness, and thus get in touch with the root of this discomfort. The anxiety came from the memory of betraying myself...

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You are Player One. This game starts here with you, your perceptions, ideas, feelings, desires, decisions, the options you see to choose from, your skills at implementing and improvising. We start in three, two, one…
But wait! This is your everyday life! You are already frantically doing now everything you can think of that is best for you. How is it working out so far? The question is, what are you unable to think of that could drastically improve your life and the world?
Let us agree that you are now at the beginning of a new game. In this game you get to start over again and again, without penalty, as often as you want, trying out new actions.
And we add in one mysterious factor: anamnesia...

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Here you will find an assemblage of more than a dozen of articles written by the most courageous people I’ve encountered, people who are ready to break any rule (especially their own!) to take back their Authority.

Warning: INTENSE! These articles were written during a Rage Club. They hold the specific energy of the Bright Principle of Clarity. Not an intellectual clarity, a 5-body Clarity. Here we go:

"I take back my authority to be happy. I may laugh at every joke and at everything I find funny, even if others do not find the joke funny. I can laugh at something as long as I want to! I decide myself and spontaneously and alone what I want to laugh about. I take back my authority to laugh with open mouth and very loud. I take back my authority to go away whenever I want. I don’t have to stay and listen to any more bullshit. From now on I’m going to get up immediately and say that my ears are listening to bullshit and I’m going to leave the room whenever I want to. I don’t have to stay anymore. I take back my authority not to stay for anything! I DON’T HAVE TO FUCKING ENDURE ANYTHING!! I take back my authority to say STOP right now or leave right now. I don’t have to explain..."

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Running through the Patriarchy Wall, and leaving a hole in the form of my old shape.

As a man in the Patriarchy, we are trained to blindly chase after the things that are true beings, don’t really need. We are Like Warhorses, storming down the hill, Eyes covered, and we are about to meet the sword.

How do you train a horse? You break its spirit.

How do you train a Warhorse? You break his spirit and train him to be numb to death.

This is an article for those of us that haven’t gotten fully dead yet.

It started with sadness. I watched my friends doing something wrong, something bad, something that my delicate child spirit couldn’t really ignore, but I decided to ignore it. I decided to look the other way, and be part of the group, otherwise, who will I play with? Who would accept me? Who would love me? for A small child, the group of friends is the whole world.

It might be anything that we did at that time, as boys do (and even girls), we break each other's spirit with a silent agreement...

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I have lately been thinking that we are coming down to the go/no-go moment in terms of preventing the Siberian methane tipping point from avalanching into unstoppable global warming. I think it is time for scientists around the world who trust their own global warming evidence to withdraw from the system that propagates the global warming.

Withdrawal from the system would be neither symbolic nor philosophical. Withdrawal would be sudden, total and drastic.

This would require great personal efforts on the part of the scientists, our families, teams, companies and organizations. But if withdrawal could critically disable the carbon economy, its earlier collapse would avoid even greater suffering from flood, draught and worldwide famine.

Abandoning modern culture proactively as a result of trusting scientific evidence would prove that human intelligence exists. To continue a carbon-hungry consumer lifestyle in the face of recent climate-change knowledge makes us no more intelligent than bacteria, consuming beyond the carrying capacity of their resources and dying in their own wastes.

Withdrawal is simple and already proven to be effective. It is nonviolent noncooperation with whatever is nonregenerative...

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Nobody is ever ready to go through an Emotional Healing Intensive but it can help to remember that life does not happen when you are ready for it. Here is the legend about doing EHI (Emotional Healing Intensive).

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I am on a quest to discover group cultures that could allow humans to live in harmony with life.

In the past few months, I have developed an idea called Transformative Cultures that I want to share today.

Sharing it excites me so much because I have growing confidence that this is the work that I was put on planet earth to undertake.

But first, what are cultures and why are they important?

We like to think of ourselves as free agents, making rational choices about how we want to live.

But actually, many of our behaviors and the things we think are important are simply inherited from the norms and patterns of our time: that we call culture.

But actually, many of our behaviors and the things we think are important are simply inherited from the norms and patterns of our time: that we call culture.

I call our particular culture the culture of control. It’s primarily motivated by a fear of change and works to prevent it by limiting many of the instincts that make us alive and human.

For example, it works to prevent us moving beyond our outdated economic model of organizing society by encouraging us to spend our lives in bullshit jobs and on Netflix and social media rather than pursuing our dreams and actively working towards the more beautiful world our hearts know is possible.

When we do come together in social movements to try and change things, we bring with us many of the culture of control’s assumptions and behaviors. This leads us to recreate its toxic patterns within our movements.

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#OCCUPY is not a legal conflict. It is political insurgency.

The bad news is: as the ruling system tries to suppress the insurgency it engages in low-intensity warfare. In other words, we are already at war. The good news is: states don’t know how to win this war. “No state has ever defeated an indigenous insurgency.” — Jerry Boyle

The Jabberwock is a loose affiliation of psychopathic personalities using single-mind intelligence passing orders down through their hierarchies.

In comparison, #OCCUPY is open-source (leaderless), and uses many-mind (swarm) intelligence, which is nonlinear and which tends to generate an abundance of parallel (unpredictable/uncontrollable) actions. Therefore, if #OCCUPY persists, then the Jabberwock has no chance!

Persistence is enhanced through intelligent understanding of #OCCUPY strategies and technologies, thus, this mini-handbook...

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I keep rewinding to find the question that would come before the last one: Do these people even realize that it is possible for them to choose to provide something other than asphalt roads for their children to play upon? The answer seems obvious, but maybe it is not obvious. The answer is: No, they don’t know that they have a choice.

Modern culture renders the possibility of something happening that is completely different right now both nonexistent and ridiculous. Nonexistent because modern culture teaches you to give your authority away to unknown and unnamed powers. Ridiculous because modern culture educates you to believe that modern culture is the highest authority on the best thing for human beings to invent. Why on Earth would you want something completely different from what modern culture is providing right now?

The ridiculousness of wanting something completely different has turned into a bitter joke at the end of dinner parties where, to conclude a heated conversation about what is wrong in the world, someone throws their hands in the air and with a wry laugh and says, “What can we do about it anyway?” while knocking back another glass of wine...

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As long as you are not aware of what you are really capable of, you are not really capable of anything!

Doing my coaching work I meet a lot of people, who have no idea at all what they are really capable of. Perhaps you think now that I am talking about talents and qualities. Yes, it is also true that often time people don’t know about their talents and qualities, because they are educated to be modest and not to be a poser. In addition our education system makes it difficult or even impossible for us to find out, what special talents we are gifted with. But I’m talking about something completely different, when I ask you, if you are aware of what you are really capable of. The thing I am talking about is at least as crucial for living your destiny as your talents are. I’m talking about your underworld – your shadow parts!

And with shadow parts I also do not mean the little weaknesses we normally talk about in job interviews. Your underworld is about the dark, normally unconscious and irresponsible parts of your personality, undermining your life as long as you have no consciousness about them. As long as you are not aware about what you are really capable of – and I mean this in the worst sense of the word – you are either a walking time bomb or nothing else than a dud with no impact. As long as you do not possess your underworld, your life will either have no effect at all or even worse, it will have an effect which you do not like (see #4 of my article: “8 factors that keep us from leading a purpose driven life”).

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You are hard on yourself? You question yourself often and end up in self-judgment? You blame yourself for not being good enough and making mistakes all the time? You are home in the behavior of beating yourself up?

Beating yourself up is a survival strategy, by making yourself small.

You are judging yourself and think you should be better, even if you just began something you are interested in. Just imagine you decided to run a Marathon. You start training and soon you compare yourself to others. The judging voices start, you feel bad about it and train even more doggedly. How bizarre is that? You manipulate yourself to continue because you are not good enough yet and totally forget why you even started training to be a Marathon runner — because you love running!

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My earliest memories about anger go back to when I was around 4 years old. My mother and my father are fighting with each other. I do not understand why they hurt each other with words. I want them to stop. Why do people fight like this? Shortly after, they separate.

The next thing a little later, my 12 years older brother is not feeling well. I come into the room and want to play with him. He gets angry and hits me with a guitar. I do not understand. My home is not safe.

Then later, I am 12 to 14 now. My ex-alcoholic, war traumatized grandfather is getting dementia. He was never really a pleasant person to be with for me, but now he starts to shout at the people at the Christmas table. He creates an atmosphere of horror. If I speak up I am in danger of being attacked. Again I do not understand. Why is he doing that? Why is no one stopping him? I just swallow this atmosphere down. I swallow my hate. It is like this every year now. At every family gathering there is shouting, threatening. When the other family members fight they collapse inwards out of fear and go nuts or shout at each other in similar ways.

One part of me rejoices in that drama, in the intensity of it. One part becomes more and more numb and isolates myself from my family.

Inside me one part of me started hating many of my family members. I did not want to have anything to do with them. These people are crazy. Hurting the close ones they are supposed to love the most.

The picture of anger I got through all of that is. Anger is bad. It is totally destructive, it poisons the atmosphere. It hurts other people. It is insane. It creates disconnection. I will hate you and not take you seriously if you are angry. And I, I will never be like this. I will never let my anger out like they do.

But I did...

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Metamodernism is the cultural phase and worldview that comes after postmodernism.

Modernism was the optimistic child of the enlightenment. It believed in our ability to understand an objective reality through science and thus make progress. This worldview still exists in academics like Steven Pinker who argue that we must double down on our enlightenment values in order to carry on driving humanity forward.

Postmodernism came along like your friend who knows everything and critiqued this progress. Didn’t modernism realise the damage it was doing to people and planet in search of economic growth? Just look at the inequality, loneliness, neocolonialism and ecological turmoil all around us. Surely you can see the complete bankruptcy of the modernist worldview! The postmodernist superpower is to critique and deconstruct the world we live in. But in order to go beyond postmodernism’s critiques, we need a new cultural phase and worldview to allow us begin to imagine a new, better world.

Enter Metamodernism.

Metamodernism is the cultural phase and worldview that can help us tackle what Tomas Björkman has called the meta-crisis. This is the spiritual, cultural and philosophical crisis that lies behind the more obvious calamities of today’s world — like the climate and ecological emergency or the failings of liberal democracy...

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This is a guide to valuable thoughtware upgrades on your way to next culture - Archiarchy - the culture that naturally emerges after matriarchy and patriarchy have run their course. Archiarchy is the culture of archetypally initiated adult women creatively collaborating with archetypally initiated adult men.

Standard Human Intelligence Thoughtware drives the cultures which are exterminating life on Earth.

Upgrading your thoughtware empowers you to create and inhabit Gaia-regenerating cultures, accomplishing very new results...

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Did you ever wake up with an impression that this is going to be ‘one of those days’?

The alarm didn’t go off. Your important meeting starts in fifteen minutes so you are already late. There is no time for coffee and you don’t have anything to wear. Your hair is a mess and you don’t have time to take a shower and anyway your shower broke down yesterday. The plumber said there is no hot water for a week…

A wild guess is that we’ve all had days like this.

I did, recently. That day, nothing was working my way. After a few hours of growing rage, I called up a friend. Weirdly enough, he was experiencing the same situation! After a solid fifteen minutes of serious complaining on both side, I asked him “What do you do with the anger when nothing seems to be working?”. He said: “I use my anger to do the next thing”.

What a wild idea! How do I do that? I always thought anger was the problem, not the solution to the problem! In modern culture, we were never educated to use our anger ‘to do the next thing’. Why not, I wondered? Then I realized, we never had class about anger, or any other feeling, for that matter. What are we taught in modern culture about anger? That anger is a bad feeling, that anger is a negative feelings.

But now, I am told that I can use my anger to do the next thing. So I tried it and I couldn’t do it. Why not? Because anger is definitely not polite. What would stop you from using your anger to do the next thing? Maybe for you, “anger is…”

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Lyrics to sing to the melody of ‘You Need To Calm Down’ by Taylor Swift:

We are somebody that we don’t know

And we’re chopping tree, like it’s for free

And I’m just like, damn, are we insane?

Bombing the middle east, that’s a knockout

Blame it on the risks, that’s a cop-out

And I won’t just like, no, let that go down...

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How do you sleep at night knowing that you sell your child’s future for a phantom currency? What if you turned heretic against the religion of Profit, and redirected your business so your children could regain some hope?

Responsibility is applied consciousness. What you do indicates your awareness.

Thinking that it is reasonable to weigh the well-being of Earth against corporate profits reveals the height of our psychopathic insanity. What value is profit if the planet has been sterilized of complex life forms by climate change?

Yet, directors in both large and small companies, as well as leaders at all levels of government assume they make that choice daily.

And which choice do the vast majority of corporate and governmental leaders favor? Planet or profit? You don’t have to look far to find that answer...

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We live in uncertain times. The very survival of humanity hangs by a thread.

In this series, I will explore the question: What is it going to take to shift humanity away from the precipice?

I will give my account of the biggest and most important transition in human history.

In Part 1: Chasing Shadows, I will explore the situation we find ourselves in and present a model that attempts to answer the question of why our civilization seems committed to destroying all life on Earth.

In Part 2: Unveiling the Light, I will explore what a transition to what I call a life-harmonious, non-dual civilization could look like.

In Part 3: Returning to Life, I will share my narrative of humanity returning to life, that I think nicely captures this evolutionary metamorphosis.

How should we think about and respond to the potential collapse of our civilization?

This is the ultimate question of our time.

But of course, in answering it, we can’t help but try to use the same old master’s tools, the same old approach, that got us into this mess in the first place.

In our modern culture, when there’s something we don’t like, we quickly brandish it a problem, try to pin it down and fix what’s causing it before more things go wrong.

This is how many people have ended up trying to respond to the ultimate clusterfuck of our time: that we are killing life all around us and most probably we’re going down with it.

They try to pin down the root cause of our problems to a particular area of life. Some say the problem lies in our lack of real democracy or in the dominance of corporate greed or our polluting technology. Others, level the blame at our metaphysical, cultural and philosophical ‘stories’ or beliefs. Others still, point the finger at our lack of spiritual development. I could go on, almost, ad infinitum.

Everyone has their pet issue to point a finger at as the ‘real’ problem, while they smile and congratulate themselves on being the only ones ‘advanced enough’ to realize it.

What I myself have realized! is that the problem of our civilization, or what some have called the ‘meta-crisis’, cannot be pinned down to one aspect of our lives. Instead, it can be seen everywhere we look, within ourselves, in our outward behaviors, in everyone around us and their behaviors, as well as in all of the institutions, systems and culture that make up our society.

In fact, the very attempt to pin it down is one of its many manifestations...

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This is part 2 of a 3 part series, exploring the emergence of a non-dual civilisation.

In part 1, we explored the dominance of Shadow in our culture and the patterns that are leading to the devastation of life on Earth.

Today, we will investigate how groups of people could come together and step into a harmonious relationship with Life once more.

This would begin building what I call a Non-Dual Civilisation.

It’s non-dual because it’s a human community that is based upon the deepest wisdom of our spiritual, ecological and mystical traditions and brings it into all areas of life, so that humanity can be a positive force on Planet Earth once more.

It’s a civilisation because we cannot, as some claim, go backwards to a prehistoric, tribal world without technology or agriculture. To respond to the crises of our times, we need governance at a global level. The only path forwards is to properly integrate the advances of humanity into a global, democratic civilisation.

Let’s get back to Tim.

Back to Tim

Tim’s in the gym trying to get ‘#swoleforthesummer’ to feed his insatiable desire to fill the inadequacy of his present moment experience.

Out of the corner of his eye, he notices a flyer on the gym wall.

“Join our Transformative Group and find your life purpose!” it reads.

A part of Tim that has been asleep for many years wakes up and rushes to get in touch with the group.

A few weeks later Tim goes along to an introductory meeting.

Transformative Groups

The group Tim has signed up for, has been working for some time to build what I call a Transformative Culture.

This is a group dedicated to supporting its members to come into right relationship with themselves, each other and Life itself. To individually and collectively return to the flowing river of Life: a wellspring of creativity and Evolution.

To achieve this, they hold themselves to what I call The Shadow Veils the Light Principle. This means that when Shadow shows up in its many forms like suffering, judgement, addiction, pain, conflict and death, the group works to hold it up to the light of awareness, to find the gift within it, and thus transform it into the Light.

It is the Shadow unseen that blocks the flow of Life in ourselves, our relationships and the human race as a whole.

By unveiling the Light, we can become expressions of Love in the world rather than being stuck in unconscious survival patterns that only hurt ourselves and those around us.

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How many of us in our Modern Culture are truly living?

Look around you — Not many.

Most of us spend our time numbing ourselves to Life.

We live from our psychological survival strategies which carry out the automatic, unconscious patterns and behaviors that kept us safe in our childhoods. These strategies are dead trauma tapes — they play the same way they always have —meaning nothing ever changes.

We live inside the norms, values and assumptions of our culture, leading most of us to simply follow the career, relationship and life paths laid out before us, rather than following what is real and meaningful to us in each moment.

We are stuck in these prisons but they are not really who we are.

In reality, ‘we’, are a dynamic flow of aliveness and creativity just waiting to stream into the world. We are a part of the cosmic dance of Life and Evolution, on its quest to produce more Life.

I call living from this aliveness 'flowing in the river of Life'. In Possibility Management, it’s the journey to live in the liquid state, where you choose to stop relying on your default mechanical, automatic responses and instead choose to fly in the groundlessness of Being. Here, there is nothing to hold onto, so all you can do is consciously create afresh, in each and every moment.

Instead of jumping into this maelstrom of Life, most of us sit on the sidelines wishing things were different.

It is a slow but brilliant journey to return to the aliveness within us.

For me, it has felt like coming alive again — And I know that I have a long way to go...

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Being in a circle with other women scares me. This has not kept me going there. I find it nourishing and necessary to create spaces for women’s culture. And my fear has been revealing to me more and more, how I can contribute to shift these spaces from ordinary into extraordinary spaces for healing and collaboration among women. Here I will take you with me, if you like, on a journey down to that place, where unconsciousness in action starts to become consciousness in action or more simply: it becomes a possibility to choose more Responsibility.

Before I knew how that goes, I would just shut down and leave if I found myself in spaces among women that were not working for me. Like when I visited a local group for mums with babies with my son, when he was a few weeks old. As a mother of a small baby, I was desperate to get out and connect. But it soon turned out that the purpose of coming together was not, as I assumed, to collaborate, experience community, have supportive exchanges and give the children the opportunity to play with each other. Instead, in the first meeting it became obvious to me that the actual purpose of this ‘women’s circle’ was to gossip and complain about the fathers of the children...

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School did not teach me to feel before speaking my truth. Here I will try something new and start with feeling: I feel angry.

I feel angry that I carry the scars of an education system that celebrated my ability to conform. I feel angry that my tender blooming years were treated as consent to inoculate me with dogmatic institutionalization and a quiet, insidious bending to the maintenance of hierarchy and thus the status quo. A fantasticall

y outdated status quo. (Need I mention the systematic destruction of life of many levels, that this status quo perpetuates?)

I am angry that whilst at school, huge environmental and social issues were (and are) rapidly deteriorating the ecosystems we, as humans, shape and are shaped by. Against this backdrop, the system of education I went through, maintained the brilliant idea to keep me sitting, obediently, still. Kept me reciting old curriculum, weakening my sense of autonomy, self-agency and never once pausing to enquire: "Are you ok with this?"

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Using anger to level up your clarity, focus, and determination.

Everybody has things they want to change, either about themselves or about the world or both. Yet so few people actually do successfully make changes. Why is that?

I invite you to think about a moment in life when you decided to change one behaviour. We all know this mental chess game at the beginning of the year. We tried it all once I guess. You said probably to yourself “From today on, I will not do this or that again, I will do xyz instead.”

Do you remember? Ok, what happened next? Probably you kept this promise to yourself for a while, 1 or 2 weeks, maybe longer and then shifted back to the old behaviour. Like a yoyo effect. Right?

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Some time ago I heard the sentence: "Sometimes the next step is not a step but a jump into the unknown!"

I am in a Liquidstate.

A Liquidstate is the space within which Transformation happens. Where the old shape implodes or explodes and gets into chaos. The wanted and necessary chaos so letting go of the shore is possible. Letting go of holding tight to the known.

The known, which kept me safe and blind in familiar territory, the strategy which I chose to survive in life these many years. To be safe. It keeps me from feeling the pain. The fear of being punished being alive, being bold and dangerous for people, by not getting the attention and love I wanted and needed. I feel huge screaming sadness, that I left parts of my being, behind in my vaster unniverse, hiding behind walls and walls of pretending that everything is ok...

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SPOILER: There is, it’s free, and almost no one knows about it.

The Journey is on!

If you’ve spent any significant time exploring the world of personal development and transformation, you may have arrived at a similar conclusion as I have:
While it’s fun work to do solo, it’s a lot more enjoyable (and rewarding and effective and rapid and life-giving) to do it with a team. This is true for a number of reasons. First, having a team means you get the insights and experience of group intelligence. You aren’t just stuck smacking into the walls of your own private transformational echo chamber.
Beyond this, when you’re on a team, transformational work stops being just about you and becomes about something bigger. Namely, it starts being about the team. I commit to the other teammates’ empowerment and transformation as much as (or more than) they commit to mine, because the team spaceship only flies when everybody is thriving...

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Nobody can be subversive for you. Nobody can figure out for you what you want to create to change the world. Nobody can bring together your group of people.

However … nobody can stop you from doing any of that either.

1. Subversiveness does not only have to be public. Being subversive can start in the privacy of your own living room.
2. Subversiveness does not need to start with clever answers. Being subversive can start with the unreasonable drive to wrestle with unanswered questions.
3. Subversiveness does not have to be about fighting the existing systems. Being subversive is also about creating a new systems that makes the existing systems irrelevant.

“Good morning. (You can wait for them to say good morning back.) The purpose of this meeting is for this small group of individuals to make a difference in the climate and human crisis on Planet Earth. During these meetings we will keep informing ourselves by watching documentaries and relevant films. We will create and do experiments, go make expeditions that bring our purposes into action. This meeting is NOT about sharing opinions. It is about sharing in extraordinary actions that already are real change.”

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Until about 8 months ago, I wasn’t aware of how my life is shaped by Patriarchy. I wasn’t aware of the opportunities and advantages being a man grants me. I didn’t realize that the world we live in is made by - and made for - men. I didn’t know what I was creating in terms of relationships or intimacy, either. What I knew, I learned from my father and from my mother, and both of them live in Patriarchy. If parents in Patriarchy - and I do mean both mother and father - did not raise their children according to the same values they themselves were raised with, Patriarchy would have already died out centuries ago...

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In the gameworld of Possibility Management, distinctions, thoughtmaps, processes, and tools are used to create a new way of interacting with the world, others, and ourselves. What is a tool ?
A tool is an object used to extend the ability of an individual to modify features of the surrounding environment (according to Wikipedia).
‘Modify’ might mean to create, reshape or destroy an object, behavior, or point of view...

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Where are those individuals with courage enough to retool their thinking minds, upgrade their Thoughtware, and act outside of traditional behavior patterns to solve problems in new ways?

Believe it or not, one of them is reading these words right now. By Experimenting with S.P.A.R.K.s (Specific Practical Applications of Radical Knowledge) you learn wildly new forms of being with yourself and working with people in groups and Teams. If you have read this far, you can be certain that you already embody regenerative culture Spaceholding qualities, whether you know that about yourself or not.

These words would not interest you in the least unless you were willing to release the steel-hard grip of your mind on your reality. To read this far it must already excite you to learn that there exist Thoughtmaps for opening up access to new territories...

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The journey of a 'White Widow'!!! How to get your center back, ignite your will, and create and sustain authentic and radical relationships?

I intend to write in a way that invites you and nurture your will to read all the article till the end. I am writing this article while I am discovering and being more aware and conscious of my white widow survival strategy. I have started doing a conscious process starting on June of 2021 supported by people walking this transformative healing path that Possibility Management team has been uncovering over the last 40 years...

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I want to travel into the underbelly, to share insights. To reach down below like the spreading roots of a tree and perhaps reach you down there. Down in the underworld where we are not all that different. Where the light that reflects off the ocean is the same as the sparkle in your eyes, where the shadows of a moon-light night shift in the same shades of our collective unseen. Where consciousness can rise like the dawn and rest like a depleted cycle of breath. That place where I find you by going deeper into myself.

I want to introduce you to this skeleton by telling the story of how I learnt to consciously feel and express my anger. Everything I write is from my own personal experience. It was not taught to me in school, or from a book — although there are books and websites that have given my experience context and let me know that I am not crazy. Let me know that others have experienced similar things also. I also did not do it all totally alone, I was sat with and had little pieces explained to me. I watched others, then tried out my own experiments. I recorded the results on my phone, in my notebook and tried out the practices again. I spoke with people who have been doing similar things for longer and asked them endless questions, then went and refined my practice...

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